There are many kinds of relationships
Sometimes it is love at first sight, and sometimes love evolves through a long acquaintanceship. Sometimes we want physical contact and intimacy, but don't need a serious relationship. It is not always easy to find the right partner. There is not just one way to start a new relationship. But when you know yourself well, you can also give your best while dating or in a relationship.
Sometimes it is love at first sight, and sometimes love evolves through a long acquaintanceship. Sometimes we want physical contact and intimacy, but don't need a serious relationship. It is not always easy to find the right partner. There is not just one way to start a new relationship. But when you know yourself well, you can also give your best while dating or in a relationship.
When looking for a partner, think first about things you like. Maybe you'll find them in a place where you enjoy spending your time or through a common interest or mutual friends. We are more interested in people who share the same interests and values or feel somewhat familiar. Sometimes the fear of being rejected, or a bad experience from the previous relationship, can prevent you from telling someone you have a crush on them or even falling in love. Inexperience in social relationships or being single for a long time can also cause tension and uncertainty when you meet a new person. In all interactions and relationships, learning comes best through trial and error. On the contrary, waiting and admiring the crush from afar can create delusions that are not true. This often raises the threshold for taking the initiative even higher.
The more often you take a risk and express your feelings, the more likely it is that someone will positively respond to you. Sometimes you will get rejected, but the reasons for this can vary; it is not always about you and your behavior. Getting rejected does not mean you are inferior or worthless. Even when the feelings are not mutual, people are often flattered to hear someone is interested in them.
The more often you take a risk and express your feelings, the more likely it is that someone will positively respond to you. Sometimes you will get rejected, but the reasons for this can vary; it is not always about you and your behavior. Getting rejected does not mean you are inferior or worthless. Even when the feelings are not mutual, people are often flattered to hear someone is interested in them.
Dating and new relationships take courage.
Am I willing to share myself and my thoughts with another person, even at the risk that the attempt may fail? Am I taking the initiative, or am I waiting for others to do it? What if the other person doesn't take the initiative, will I miss the opportunity?
In a good relationship, both parties are equal
When you fall in love, your new partner often makes you feel content, whole, and happy. The idea that the other person makes you happy and fixes all your problems is understandable: You are in love! However, making your partner responsible for your happiness ultimately leads to disappointment. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness, even when they are in a relationship. A lasting relationship is based on good self-knowledge. When you know yourself, it is also easier to tell your partner how you feel, what you need, what you like, and what you don't tolerate. In a lasting relationship, wishes and needs are discussed, and compromises are made. Both partners are happy together and separately. Conflicts and fights are part of a healthy relationship. Surviving hardships and challenges increases security and trust, and develops the relationship. You both are allowed to grow and develop independently. In a good relationship, you should feel joy and pride when your partner succeeds.
A breakup is a crisis you can overcome
A date doesn’t always guarantee another and a relationship may not work out, even when you try your hardest. If you don't feel accepted by your partner or can't communicate with them, then you are not happy in that relationship. A relationship will end and a break-up will follow when you can't settle significant disagreements. Even if you are unhappy, it can still be difficult to break up officially. But if you settle for an unsatisfactory relationship or don't feel genuine respect towards your partner, you are deceiving both of you.
The sudden end of a relationship can be extremely painful when you are still emotionally involved. The way the relationship ends matters. It is possible to end a relationship with respect and by talking things through. Both parties should have the opportunity to share their feelings, even if they disagree about the breakup. You will survive when a relationship ends, even though it may hurt enormously at first. Ending a relationship can also be a process of growth, and you may end up learning a lot about yourself. Identifying your behavior pattern helps you understand the reasons for the breakup and helps you to create a better and more lasting relationship in the future. When you think and process your past relationship and the reasons behind the breakup, your self-awareness improves.
Check out Nyyti's Life Skills Course (in Finnish): jakso 13: itsetunto ja itsetuntemus.
When you fall in love, your new partner often makes you feel content, whole, and happy. The idea that the other person makes you happy and fixes all your problems is understandable: You are in love! However, making your partner responsible for your happiness ultimately leads to disappointment. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness, even when they are in a relationship. A lasting relationship is based on good self-knowledge. When you know yourself, it is also easier to tell your partner how you feel, what you need, what you like, and what you don't tolerate. In a lasting relationship, wishes and needs are discussed, and compromises are made. Both partners are happy together and separately. Conflicts and fights are part of a healthy relationship. Surviving hardships and challenges increases security and trust, and develops the relationship. You both are allowed to grow and develop independently. In a good relationship, you should feel joy and pride when your partner succeeds.
A breakup is a crisis you can overcome
A date doesn’t always guarantee another and a relationship may not work out, even when you try your hardest. If you don't feel accepted by your partner or can't communicate with them, then you are not happy in that relationship. A relationship will end and a break-up will follow when you can't settle significant disagreements. Even if you are unhappy, it can still be difficult to break up officially. But if you settle for an unsatisfactory relationship or don't feel genuine respect towards your partner, you are deceiving both of you.
The sudden end of a relationship can be extremely painful when you are still emotionally involved. The way the relationship ends matters. It is possible to end a relationship with respect and by talking things through. Both parties should have the opportunity to share their feelings, even if they disagree about the breakup. You will survive when a relationship ends, even though it may hurt enormously at first. Ending a relationship can also be a process of growth, and you may end up learning a lot about yourself. Identifying your behavior pattern helps you understand the reasons for the breakup and helps you to create a better and more lasting relationship in the future. When you think and process your past relationship and the reasons behind the breakup, your self-awareness improves.
Check out Nyyti's Life Skills Course (in Finnish): jakso 13: itsetunto ja itsetuntemus.
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